Dolly Ohanyere highlights rising cases of dissatisfaction in relationships, calls for stronger personal identity among women

Relationship coach Dolly Ohanyere has called on women in Lagos to focus on self-discovery and personal identity before entering romantic partnerships, warning that unresolved questions about one’s self can undermine even the most promising relationships. Ohanyere made this known on Thursday while speaking on relationship dynamics among young Nigerians.

According to Ohanyere, many women approach relationships by asking if their partner is the right fit, without first considering whether they themselves are prepared for a healthy partnership. She noted that neglecting self-awareness leads to recurring arguments, unmet needs and ongoing dissatisfaction that may not be immediately obvious but gradually erode the foundation of the relationship.

Ohanyere, who has spent years coaching individuals and couples across Lagos State, said, “The quality of every relationship is determined primarily by the quality of your relationship with yourself. If you do not know who you are or what you want, it becomes difficult to communicate your needs or maintain stability when challenges arise.”

She further explained that many clients seek guidance only after persistent issues have already set in. “People come for coaching when they are tired of going in circles with the same problems. Often, it turns out they have not taken time to reflect on their own values and expectations,” Ohanyere added.

Experts in Lagos agree that fostering self-understanding is essential for building lasting relationships, especially as societal pressures continue to rise among young people. While there was no immediate response from major women’s advocacy groups as at press time, stakeholders are expected to intensify campaigns around self-development in coming months.

Source: https://guardian.ng/life/your-relationship-is-only-as-strong-as-your-identity/